Here's my dye-and-cut at Chapter 2, bugis. I have a longer fringe this time which will grow out in 2 weeks and a darker reddish? color which will also grow lighter, they promised. I never blow my hair because I don't own a hairdryer (The Boyfriend said he will buy me one) and this fringe effect is achieved by not washing it in the morning and using a Mustafa-bought 'goody' round brush. Am heading to cheap beauty shops at AMK to buy more hair products like some leave on conditioner, perhaps a hair mask and how about wax?
My cute blue top is from Gingersnaps, the largest kids' size. I loved it so much I went back to buy two more sleeveless tops and they fit me to a tee. Oh yes and my earphones are from Elecom, it's the best earphones I've ever bought.
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I had a nightmare yesterday. I don't know why, perhaps the chicken wings at Chompchomp was the culprit. The scenario was that, I was so freaked out by a particular person reappearance in my life that I just clung on tightly to Boyfriend's arm. And the rest of my friends were there, too, but they didn't react, didn't tell the person to f*** his sorry ass off, which was actually, what I suppose would happen in real-life. I wonder how some people, they can just mess up their own lives, and mess others' up in the process. I heard that someone I knew has upcoming nupitals (or already married), last year he was attending a marriage preparation class in The Church. But seemed to be fond of me. Friends say he had a crush on me, I don't know and I don't consider him as he is early 30s. Anyway, definitely not my kind of guy I can envision spending my life with. Through a bad business experience with him which another friend also encountered, I've learnt to stay away from such guys. They have the 'si-wun' face which you always think you can trust them. But they are too smart for their own good, I must say. So while he was attending the marriage preparation class, he remarked to me face to face that he IS NOT READY for marriage.
Wow! What a stunning revelation. Is is about money, I asked. Perhaps he has not saved up and is feeling the jitters.
No, he replied. It should never be about money, was his reply. Then, why not ready?
He gave an excuse saying that his leaders actually said those in his jurisdiction should attend, as long as they are attached. Whether this is true I do not know, but I have heard of others who attend more than once and, are still single... Still, as a lady, I ask myself, would I attend a marriage preparation class with a guy thinking I'm not serious/prepared or ready? No way! So I looked at him in horror as he blasely spoke those words. I pitied the lady, she is 30s... imagine if the wedding is called off, what are the chances of her finding a nice, christian guy? From those words you can judge too that this guy is not that nice. So now having heard the news about their nuptials, I wonder... ... and perhaps I have kept these thoughts to myself until now.
Another guy whom I used to know in my past, I have heard from a family friend he is also having impending nuptials.
It came as a shock to my family friend, but I advised her to look on the bright side. I would say that this couple deserve each other. They are both insecure, appearing nice but emotionally needy. Worse, the girl had dumped him twice before, and always, shortly getting attached to other men who appear more 'stable', IE older and financially secure. It's like break up during Christmastime and new boyfriend before CNY kind of timing. For me, I cannot understand... like how can I find someone to be attached to in such a short period of time? Either I didn't love the previous one much, or I cannot possibly love the next one (in such a short span of time, it is inconceivable to me). Kie had another way of thinking, that is... when the girl is still in previous relationship, she has already 'opened the door' to let the new guy in, hanging out with him and giving him chances. No matter how staid my current relationship is, I would not feel that it is right to give another guy a chance and I cannot even fathom doing so... no way... ... how do I live my life this way? This guy has major flaw as well, but, comparatively, I think any girl is much, much better for him. But this is not my life, I cannot judge why the first girl wants to marry this guy, and why this guy wants to marry this girl... maybe this is their destiny, this is their 'true love'.
Do you think having a life like this (always insecure whether your partner is having cold feet about the union or your partner may dump you yet again for someone more stable) is what you want? Is this kind of life better than being single?
So these are the background stories of people whom I know, getting married. Of course, there are the sweet and nice ones, which happen to be the majority. And these stories, not everyone will tell you. Only those whom you unfortunately happen to be close to.
I saw in church, a guy whom my friend used to have her eye on. He seems to be a godly man in his 30s. But, he has roving eyes. He is hamsup! On Facebook, he will look at young girls' (early 20s) photos and ogle them. In The Church, I saw him having a roving look at me, turning his head all the way back. His girlfriend, a lady who looks like she is around 30, seems insecure and holding him tightly (in service!)
Hmmm...
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