Monday, April 09, 2012
the value of.
Eating olives (makes me happy!) Else, bubble tea gives the same temporary high...but I guess olives goes a longer way. And I'm unsure if it's my imagination but it does give me better skin. Either that or the Korean type sheet mask with 'My Melody' cartoon on the packaging that does it...
Doing more artistic stuff (Went to see the Warhol exhibition, also, 'Wicked!', not really into musicals but it was a nice day out.)
Still reading non-fiction, trying to squeeze in as much reading time during lunch breaks and before going to sleep...
Having a mocha on Friday evenings (Reason being, I can't sleep well after caffeine, but I love coffee, so, sleeping late on a Friday night, I can accomplish many things too. Whee.) And it's nice to catch a friend in that cosy coffee place I love.
I've also learnt that I am quite a procastinator and I am quite led by colorful stuffs, namely, clothes. (Oh, H&M...)
I've also learnt that...
Sometimes, what I want may be what I wanted but not what I will want.
Actually, I'm trying to be not-at-all proactive and see what Life throws my way and some of the surprises are pretty good, I must say. Well, I had initiative in some sense, but still, trying to be as honest and open as I can. I do have people judging me constantly but am trying to take it all in with a smile.
Was talking about how some people are 'hard to read' and heck, I can't even read myself at times... ... so how to 'read' others... heh heh. Meanwhile I am obsessed with typifying people and categorizing people into stereotypes. I am often happily proven wrong but continue on this path stubbornly.
So here are my short-term goals:
1. Save money to travel.
(by not buying clothes. Avoid malls like the plague. And not buying 'meat' in economy rice...)In fact, making people treat me to stuff. I am actually naturally gifted in this. People give me free things all the time.
2. Learn Czech.
Been at it for months actually, but reached a very basic plateau. So now frustrating myself with spanish songs (They are lovely!) and trying to translate them without anyone to tell me if it makes sense or not. People say I have a natural tongue to pronounce european sounding languages so I should make the best of it =)... kdyz... prstu...
3. Go Travel.
I am so lucky that the only thing holding me back is the lack of money because I realised that I can quit my job anytime and find back a similar job anytime that pays me about the same. Such is IT recruitment. (I did not say it pays well.)
And why do I want to... travel more, for instance.
Well, I realised the value of an interesting life.
And people who set goals are way more interesting than those who don't.
So this is a note from present me to future me (sometime later this year.)
I hope I remember what I set out to do!
Monday, April 12, 2010
In my element
In your element.
You feel that you could be here a dozen times more and still never tire of the place.
For me, it's Melaka. To be more specific, a drive around Melaka past midnight.
Somehow, I enjoy long drives around, late at night. It's getting impossible to do so in SG given the high prices of gas... but I did enjoy those rare sessions.
Even though I don't (can't) drive, the long midnight drives in Melaka always beckoned to me. It clears my mind of clutter and I can think clearly, crystalize my thoughts, and speak them, or I may be comfortable to remain silent and enjoy the scenery in the cool of the night. This is just one small luxury that money can't buy - you have to find the right driver (ie a Melakan), because the roundabout and one-way streets are only easy for locals to navigate, the right companion who listens to the sort of music that you like but somehow didn't know you liked until it plays, and someone who knows you for a long enough time to be comfortable with you, comfortable in the silence.
I love such moments, the way I love waking up to the sound of birds (right now I wake up to the sounds of lift upgrading), the certain cafes where you can be sure a steaming hot cup of cappucino awaits you, the sound of the waves at that cafe, and the atmosphere, puts you in your element. To be sure, there aren't many places like that, and that is why these places hold a fond place in my heart and excited anticipation about my next trip there.
The long drives also brought about a sense of nostalgia for me - I remember the time when I was utterly exhausted about all in life: a demanding sales job, a more demanding leadership position, a bad person trying to mess up my life... I just scooted to Melaka the fastest I could. My therapy consisted of reading comics, watching pirated DVDS the whole day and loving it, good Melakan fare, and the long drives around at midnight. The whole time I was there, I was plagued by neverending migraines - the sign of stress I could not handle, though I did not know it then - and was thankful for the deep sleep I had and the silent company. I thought I had always liked to be in the company of chatterboxes, but during the days I was there, I had hardly talked a few sentences in a day. Understanding as he was, Chestnut did not bother to pursue, and we sat in comfortable friendly silence, watching hours of astro and pirated DVDs. It's really thanks to the Malaysian pirates that I got to watch so many good movies. We never talked about those times, but the respite I got had cemented our friendship, unlikely as it was. I guess no one ever thought that we would hang out - those were his words just a few days ago, and I jibed with a return: It's hard to find a girl similar to you. We make a pair of unusual friends, but I think in life, it's some circumstances that leads to the solidarity of some friendships. He has been though 'my purposeful life', known my pain about losing Captain Zero, losing some things, and growing up from young adults, mere teenagers, to now, we are so old now, it seems!
I haven't met Chestnut for almost two long years, and it was such a relaxing feeling when I saw him again... I count him as one of my closest and dearest friends, we have been keeping in touch almost weekly if not fornightly, and if you are wise enough, you can see that such a friendship, one that can 'maintain' itself for so long and in such a way, is one to be treasured. So I treasure greatly the all-too short times we meet, just like I eagerly anticipate meeting MsBestFriend again in Oz later in the year. It seems a shame to meet once a year or more infrequent than that, but we do try our best to meet when we are in the same country. (Despite me ALWAYS being to Melaka, Chestnut is often not in the country, and thus we rarely meet.)
I brought TheBoyfriend's relatives - our trip consisted of his mom, aunt, uncle and cousin - to a local seafood place where I was once brought to. The roads were almost free of signs to the isolated place near a small stream, yet we could find our place there by GPS and a little bit of intuitive instinct and local know-how. Chestnut was amazed at how we could find such a local haunt; even though most singaporeans would boast they know of the best so-and-so dishes in Melaka, that place was deviod of 'S' plate cars. We were the only one in a sea of 'M's, 'J's, 'W's and the occassional 'P' or 'N'. So, it's a place I love, in the beginning not for the food for I was not a food person... somehow, I am in my element, there. Despite the heat and the mossies.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
non- new year's resolutions


Wednesday, December 16, 2009
a short trip to bangkok
We finally found chic couple tees in Chatuchak and bought a couple of couple tees.
Watch out for the mad tuk tuk driver...without a license.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
philosophical
I read yesterday a text about Philosophy. Sounds boring and all, but I find myself referring back to it many times from the time I first read it.
Sometimes I get myself into an all-out thinking mode. Unfortunately, it’s often caused by unhappy incidences. I wonder, when I look back at my old photos, whether I am the same person in the photo, a younger, livelier, more cheerful side of me? I don’t think people would describe me as ‘morose’, now, no, perhaps the more positive ‘she has mellowed down’. Maybe my past bubbly and social self was injurious to my emotional needs. But also, maybe I had liked myself better then than now. And it’s hard to say, how life turns out, isn’t it?
I was prompted to think after reading about some instances, about personalities. Like, if after an accident, you become a ‘changed person’, that means you have been altered, then, is the person loving you loving the same person? If you have become a different person, then I don’t think the person has the same love… in that sense, maybe it would be better for the person not to love you/the new you.
I’ve always wondered about people who seem all well-adjusted and a nice friend to others while they are not all that in real life. Somehow seeing too many bad sides of people I have worked with in the past causes me to take a certain caution to new acquaintances. Maybe I’m being unfriendly, but when certain friendships prove injurious to my emotional expense, I’d rather take precautions. So, when everyone is saying how nice so-and-so is, I observe quietly, like a few of my friends. And we notice things about so-and-so that others would have missed, you might call it the ‘dark side’ of the person. I noticed one particular person, he seems to be a influential person, always having a ready smile, kindly, and doing well financially too. But after some skepticism from one of my other friends and me, we began to spot some discrepancies. For instance, said person made some unkindly comments which we believe stem from his insecurities. Maybe the physical manifestation of his fears cause him to come out of the carefully arranged public profile and make such a direct and some would deem, blunt comment. And we have seen him also getting close to people only for certain personal intent. I’ve always believed if you always want people to think that you are nice, you might have some parts that were not that nice. Well, people can say all sorts of things about you, but at least for me I know who would stand up for me and who would believe my side. I have actually felt saddened by people who seem to want to be close friends, always going out for shopping trips, sharing, meals, etc. But after all… you realize they are using you as a fair-weather friend, a ‘filler’in their lives, for they disappear quickly, too. Some come back after a while, claiming their friendship on you and a request to catch up for shopping soon, but this kind of friendship seems superficial to me, and I would not care to share deeply about my thoughts other than that which are found in fashion magazines.
It’s also sad when friendship breaks up because of certain small misunderstandings. It’s quite common in fact. But because of something that happened, it causes an ill-will to be around that friendship and also, it ceases to be the same as before. But I digress. Being wiser as we grow older, we have to think more about things, sometimes even having a notion of what to do before an unexpected situation happens.
So here’s an excerpt from what I read:
‘Go on and argue (in your head)- you will understand more about what you believe. You will begin to understand the subject more deeply. And this helps you to feel comfortable with it. And you might change something or you might not. When we ask ourselves questions, we start to understand ourselves and our lives, and it’s up to us to make changes or not. If the ideas in your head agree, this means you have integrity. What you say and what you do are the same. Everyone respects someone who has integrity!
By thinking and questioning, we can understand more and maybe prevent problems caused by misunderstanding.’
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
O! Glorious Food!
I was very cheered to have had many nice meals lately. And they are nolstalgic, of sorts.
Since I have been sickly for the last months – first flu, and then another sort of flu, and gastroenteritis of a weird kind – I have not had much to eat, and perhaps, not in the right frame of mind to enjoy it, too.
Tracking down a short history of my food haunts, I am quite an unusual customer, you would say. Even if the food is nice, I would not like to visit it again and again week after week. The exception being, of course, lunch. For lunch, I try not to vary too much. Each week, I’d have yong tau foo, Subway Italian BMT, Mos burger… yes, the weekly lunch menu is always similar.
Anyways, I have had the privilege of visiting the top few restaurants in my personal food lists, yes, I do keep a list in my PDA though it’s seldom referred to.
I started posting photos of all the food places we’ve been to recently, so please add me on FB if you wanna. I must say they are nice photos… hee.
So here are my fave picks!
ITALIAN
Best pasta (freshly made and the only one to do so in Singapore)
Pasta Fresca Da Salvatore’s Sixth Avenue
Try the Arrabiata, it got me hooked. And any pizza with salami in it!
Also
Swiss Culture’s cream and mushroom Pasta. Slurp up every bite.
MEXICAN
Margarita’s – it’s the only one I’ve tried and… super delish. At Dempsey and East Coast Rd has one I believe.
KOREAN BBQ
Chang, Korean Restaurant at Dempsey. Packed so have to book on weekends. It introduced me to authentic kimchi – I never liked kimchi, having only tasted the ones at food-courts…now, I LOVE IT. See photos!
The Boyfriend says the kimchi rocks too.
DESSERT (CAKE)
PS CafĂ©’s cakes at Dempsey. I love the pecan pie, sticky date cake, brownie, chocolate blackout…
New favorite being Max Brenner’s Belgian waffle and Crepe Suzette (Esplanade). See photos!
JAPANESE
Without fail, Ichiban Boshi’s sukiyaki and cereal chicken and fresh kajiki sashimi. Some branches have differing standards though, we feel that Esplanade’s one is the best. For more upmarket, Kuriya has a mean sashimi! At Shaw Orchard.
Also, the sukiyaki at ‘Sun with Moon’ both at Clarke Quay and Wheelock is very nice. The plus point of ‘Sun with Moon’ is that it has nice desserts as well. And super romance ambience at Wheelock.
Best soba which made me like soba … Shimbashi soba, Paragon. Try the ‘Oroshi’ cold. And super healthy. See photos!
I have not found any good FRENCH, THAI, CHINESE or SWEDISH food yet… =)
I consider myself blessed we can find such a variety of food in Singapore, and we can afford it, at least as a weekend dinner…
Tuesday, September 01, 2009
flea marts stakeout!
Coupled with a carnival atmosphere and loads of great food!
HotDogs @ $2! Draft Beer @ $5!
Pre-Loved Clothes & Shoes : Zara, Gap, Mango, Abercrombie, True Religion...
Imported Accessories from Korea & Japan
Pre-Loved Books
Pre-Loved & New - Baby & Kiddy Clothes : Old Navy, PRL, Gap
Imported Baby Dresses
Children's Toys
Gorgeous Bags : Kate Spade, Coach
Hand-made Tote Bags
Pre-Loved & HandPainted Shoes
Premium Shoes & Rare Sneakers from Nike
Limited Edition Tees (Supreme)
Express Mani & Pedi from $8
Princess Mani & Pedi from $5
Free Muffins for the Kids!
Free Face-painting for the Early birds!
Tuesday, June 02, 2009
a guide to dressing well (and looking good in photographs) while overseas
Day 1:
I bought 2 sweaters for the trip so this is my first one, a raspberry sweater from Nafnaf. I'm quite scared of getting a chill so I wore a undershirt under my black long-top.
These tights are 120 denier, looks classy for night or day and in my opinion, warmer and better looking than jeans. And I added a little black vest from Muji which surprisingly helps to keep warm... I will mix and match these outfits for nice photos as it progresses...
Day 2:
Still wearing the raspberry sweater, went to Philip Island and did a lot of walking so opted for jeans - I did wear thin knee stockings inside to be safe.
Day 3:
Just walking around the bohemian parts of Melbourne and it was not foggy, which means less cold. I wore a black bubble dress underneath the striped sweater and the vest and leggings.
Day 4:
Visited a church and a sunday flea market at St Kilda's beach. in this getup. It's Day 2's top, just that I wore it ,worn under the striped sweater. And leggings, instead of stockings. I bought a scarf from Target because the Daiso one just doesn't cut it.
Stockings with the black bubble dress and raspberry sweater at Ballarat. The white scarf... I love it. Inexpensive and furry and keeps me warm! On windy days it really freezes up your neck especially if you have short hair. Here, in a mock town, 18th century bar which stirs up a saucy pose in me...

Back to jeans for easy walking in a shopping area. Was getting used to the cold so it's just a hooded tee underneath (which came in handy when it started to shower.)
Friday, May 29, 2009
back.
Monday, February 02, 2009
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Melaka...
Is where, on top Bukit China, just a short walk away from the Peranakan shophouse where I stay in Chinatown, you can see the best sunset, overlooking the city. The hill has olden chinese graves built into it, but doesn't have the creepy feel. Some guys asked me in chinese as I was traisping upwards, "ni bu pa ma?" - aren't you afraid? To which I just snorted at them - not being impolite, but too breathless. Ahhh...
Is where I met my first Swedish cyclist who cycled (!!!) from BKK to SG.
We spent Valentine's of '07 together. I was there to meet Ches, but he had a last-min call to his ship.
So I was there alone, but not really alone. And yes, we were both single at the time.
And nothing else happened BY THE WAY! Although he did come to my guesthouse the next morning to wave goodbye, this was the morning after. And, this was all he carried along with him.
Is where I met my first New Caledonian, in fact, I've always wanted to visit New Caledonia. It will be such an adventure!
He runs a B&B and this is the directions to his place.
Is where I get my 'secret recipe' craving of black pepper lamb pie and cheesecakes galore. At half-price, this is a good way to have lunch!
Is where the peacefulness of the surroundings allow me to meditate and have conversations with God. When I am alone, and have nothing to do, I usually find myself talking to Him, which I did, in ChristChurch, for about 2 hours one afternoon.

Is where Ches lives. My escape to, when I am depressed from the noisy traffic sound and daily life woes.
Is where this baby lives, too. Hello Ethan. I bet you are unaware I am plagiarizing this photo, hoho...
Melaka...
...Is where I'm heading to! Yay!
Friday, August 29, 2008
Wednesday, July 09, 2008
KL photos
The highway up to Tuas from somewhere in KL. I was sitting in front of my double decker coach. Aeroline's good. Think it is my preferred way to go UP to KL now...
Went up to KL for the last weekend to film an event.
I really enjoyed myself despite the short time...walked a lot. Walked everywhere, I think I know the Bukit Bintang area like the back of my hand now.
Some photos.
At Shah Alam stadium, was filming this muay thai event where they choose the Malaysian rep for The Contender 2. It's my first time watching a muay thai live! And it's pretty cool! I did like it. Stylised version of boxing popular in Thailand.
Can't see clearly from the photo but this is the infamous KL jam... at 2am!!!
When we finished our supper at 3 am the roads were still packed. I was standing at this intersection for about 15 mins waiting for my lost Boss... and the cars did not move so I suggest walking around at night at the Bukit Bintang area on weekends, would be much faster...
Now see the jam 'behind' from where I was standing. In the far skyline is the Menara Tower - once the tallest vantage point in KL. Scary jam...when we arrived at noon on Friday there was already a jam! I think it's worse than the one in Bangkok!
The Pavillion. Bigger and better. What's with huge shopping centres these days. It has lots of flagship stores like Coach, Mango, Gap, Tangs, Parkson, even La Senza, Roxy, Paul Frank, Pull and Bear, Juicy Couture, my fave shoe shop 'nose'... ummm... one whole day also cannot finish walking. But but but. I still like the crowded, messy type of shopping at Sungei Wang. I like both... I like shopping when I'm overseas...
One of the cool shops at The Pavillion!
Somehow, I find this menu quite funny... It's a sports bar at The Pavillion And I think 'crispy soft shell crab' is an oxymoron... food for thought?
I always suffer on the first night overseas, because I can't sleep on strange beds. My hotel room...Coronade hotel. Kinda oldish and creepy if you have a room to yourself which I did. But the location's fantastic it's just next to Lot 10 so from there you can walk anywhere to Bukit Bintang.
I made my boss do this, Lol! He's almost as tall as the towers...
Someone's hairy arms...It's like moss if you brush against it. You can see the 'overgrowth', this is coming from a guy who has '6 o'clock shadow' at 3 o'clock. Shaving is a must to do everyday. I wonder what creepy little creatures are lurking inside?
Hahaha. Fascinatingly gross. I haven't got a chance to see the 'two monkeys in a hammock' legs.
Me... at Petaling St, Chinatown. There is a cute tradition there where they cannot turn away the first customer of the day or else they would have 'bad luck' for the rest of the day and no good sales! So be sure to appear there around 1130am when the shops are opening. And be sure to haggle if there's something you really want to buy. I think you can slash the price by half...Mostly fake goods though.
Filming. Notice the passersby with same stance, think they are relatives?
Satay! You can't get stuff like these here. The satay at Jalan Alor is really sweet, succulent, tender... I think 10 sticks is not enough for me and The Boss.
The Boss. We are having supper at the roadside stalls selling authentic KL roadside food like char kway teow, ikan bakar, bbq squid, tom yam soup. I love this place - It reminds me of the time I spent backpacking here ages ago.
My favorite drink. At my favorite Roti Canai shop which is near Jalan Alor. The place been around for ages... there's nothing like a juicy banana prata (die die must try) for a morning wake me up...
Wanna go Australia next.












